Newly Separated and trying to save marriage

[Dewayne]

BTW, this is only my experience talking. I fubared the DB at first and have been doing better, but kinda giving up atm.

As far as your quietness pushing her away? Well, to me only completely dark (ignoring her all together as well as not calling) is a pusher. Responding as people say, won't do this. In fact, I've seen people go completely dark and have a pos. effect. IMO, going dark is to get over people. Some say this makes them miss you, but lets talk about that a sec.

Completely Dark versus my "Into Shadows"
IF you go completely dark and ignore them and not be around them... you're trying to make them miss the OLD YOU! Newsflash, THEY DON'T THINK THEY LIKE THE OLD YOU! Why in the world would they miss that? If you were flawed, you don't want them to miss that.

Into Shadows: (as I call it) You respond with positive vibes. If they come by, answer the door, be nice and show them a person getting along just fine without them. If they txt, be nice. But be slow to txt. Doing this does 2 major things. 1. Puts off the vibe that they aren't effecting you that much and most of the time makes them think "Uhh wow. Am I making a mistake here?" And 2. Gives you a chance to show them a man / person they'd be dumb to be leaving. Here they are dishing DOGPOO onto you, and you're being the nicest person in the world who'd thoughtful and kind.