Were you mean, angry and controlling? I was for the last few years of my marriage.
If you were, admitting it allows you to work on it and move forward. You will find many controller/fixers here.
It may help you both for her to be out of the house, most people on the boards advocate not S but you didn't leave your home, she did.
It seems you are making some positive steps for yourself. What books have you read? Have you read DR yet? (sorry if I missed that in the previous posts)
Cadet's post on detachment it DR in a nutshell.
You can't control what your W does or thinks, let her go.
Detach, get a life, take care of your D.
There's that Ghandi quote, Be the change you want to see in the world...
You be the change you want to see in your M.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
