In answer to your question, no, I'm not going to tell my H what he should eat or not eat, whether we're together or not.

He's an adult, he get to make those decisions. My sons who are now adults, get to make those decisions. And they've been making them for a long time.

Their eating habits, good or bad wouldn't make me not love them.

This is what detaching means, letting the other person live their life. Sometimes we might not agree with their choices but it's their life. It doesn't mean we don't love them but that we love them enough to let them live their life.

In many of your posts you mention that you are done or that you can't be in a R with your H. Why do you stay? What are you getting out of this R?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss