Living in the Gray

[BklynMom]

Your mothers expressions were the same ones my mother used and still uses with me.

Those expressions provoked me to make nasty comebacks and also got me in the habit of using them myself. Now that I am validating my kids and not discounting their feelings our relationships have grown so much.

One of my DB coaches actually suggested a parenting book for learning how to speak to my H. Its a great book and I have used its lessons in all my relationships. How to talk so children will listen, how to listen so children will talk.

Bug, you have taught me so much from your own growth I wanted to point out an amazing article to you regarding forgiveness. I won't paste the link but if you look it up on NYtimes.com by Paul Tullis, Can Forgiveness Play a role in Criminal Justice

I read this article Friday and I have been thinking about it non stop. If parents can forgive the man that murders their daughter, can I or do have enough empathy to forgive my H? Also as they say in the article they are forgiving for selfish reasons, to save themselves and their daughter's legacy.