I'm also trying to keep some detachment around her because I don't want to look like I'm backsliding. I did not bring up OM because I want to move forward and if I dwell on him I will backslide. He's not important to what I want to do now, and I can be ok with not knowing the gory details of her EA. I can forgive her because it will allow me to accept with an open heart the time and effort she says she will put into our R.
That's great, you're going into this with the right attitude. Don't pursue her, move slowly, let things develop. You don't need to know particulars about the EA, but it is something you probably want to discuss in MC to work out boundaries (you want to make sure she doesn't contact him again) and transparency (she should be willing to give you her email and phone passwords and let you review to make sure she's no longer in contact). Congrats on the positive developments!!
