when he finally got it he went out n bought sports car. we were already behind on our mortgage. he would never have done this before. we had huge argument the other day. he said im the root of all his problems n he has changed bc of me. he says he wants to separate. then he acts at home like everything fine. we get along but he wont touch me or sleep in the room w me. its a rollercoaster ride. i cant take the ups n downs.
That sure sounds like MLC.
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Im starting IC on Monday. I need it.
Talk to the IC about your S too, he may need IC as well.
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I tried explaining to my H that the kids cant handle him coming and going all the time n they feel abandoned. He doesnt get it n says it all my fault n he hates me. Prior to the OW I cant remember a time when he would speak like that to me. Its as if aliens took over his body.
The "alien" comment is actually fairly common in the case of MLC. Many spouses say the same thing.
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i would appreciate any advice on how to get thru this w my sanity still intact.
IC is a good step, you might also talk to the IC about how you're feeling and see if the C thinks you should see a PCP about depression medication. Many of us on these forums have had to get anti-depressants to help us through the worst of this.
Originally Posted By: tiredndrained
I got text complaining he was late for his interview bc his clothes werent ready for him. Why is this still my responsibility? He is an adult and it is his choice to want to separate.
Right, it's his issue, not yours. Don't let it escalate into an argument though, just tell him that since you're separated he's going to have to get used to taking care of himself. If he wants to push it then just let it drop.
