And I validated his feelings like crazy. I would never have gotten that as a teen or young adult. My mom would have said, "get over it, it's just a BF." my mother thought the only feelings we should have were those she told us to have, "be happy, you could have gotten nothing" "don't cry or I'll give you something to cry about" "stop frowning, what if your face would freeze that way"

Wow Bug I love this insight. I hadn't thought about it that way. I will strive to keep this in mind when I talk with my kids.

Validated....what a wonderful way to grow up.

:-)

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home