KD, thanks for your posts. I haven't been ignoring you, just out of town for a few days.
I appreciate your opinions on things. Some of it I see differently than you, but I think we're both entitled to what we believe, even if it's different. One of the things I've been working on in myself is the need to explain/argue every aspect of my perspective when I disagree with something. I must be doing well with that task because I don't even feel compelled to do so in this case. So, though I've read all of your posts, I'm only going to respond to a few specific points and let the rest simply be.
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Hey CV, I was just thinking about you and your resentment issues towards your H.
Okay, THIS made me laugh! Great segue!
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And you do not want to get into conflict with your H, because that would be more painful than living in a disconnected way with your H, that you are currently living.
I'm at a complete loss as to where this is coming from. Anyone that knows me personally knows that I do not avoid conflict, to the extreme. It's why the statement above made me laugh, because it's the kind of approach I'm known for. And it's one of the things I've worked to improve, realizing that not all battles need to be fought, and that not everyone is as fearless about confrontation as I am. H is the extreme opposite and will avoid conflict at any cost. The same could be said for pain-avoidance. I would much rather pull a band-aid off quickly than one hair at a time. I don't enjoy it, so I'm not going to cut off my nose to spite my face, but if there is no practical reason for dragging it out, by avoiding it, I won't.
To your note about my comment on SS's thread, I have mentioned this before. I've spoken of H prioritizing his family over me, about the lies on their behalf, of how I feel betrayed and devalued. If I haven't spoken of it more, I can't see that being a problem because I don't recall anyone ever asking me to tell more about the things my H does in this M. As it stands now, the kids are grown and out, and I have a good R with 3 of the 4, no contact with the 4th. H is a "great" dad to S12. I'm not sure what you think I'm withholding.
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Deal with a bit of pain right now, and put your M back on track, so that the future of doom and gloom portrayed above, does not happen.
And that would be......?
And for the record, I don't find sarcasm a healthy approach to any conversation. I would appreciate it if you would please refrain from it in my threads.
