SS, so sorry you're going through this! I've got to say though, I see a lot of mind reading in your first post in this thread. You're assuming that this new R your H is in is perfect and he's exceedingly happy. I seriously doubt that's the case. He's probably conflicted and confused and questioning everything he's doing. He may be in the throes of "puppy love" right now too, but those feelings will pass. He may be doing this to try and convince himself that leaving you is what he wants, and he may very well find that the grass isn't greener on the other side. So what do you do? You DB. You work on YOU. You GAL, you move on, you become an independent, strong woman. Strive for a PMA, a REAL PMA.
You mention bitterness, humiliation and jealousy; those are poison to you, your R with your H and your R with your children. Strive to overcome those feelings. I was just re-reading DR last night and Michele says something really important in there, DO NOT sit around waiting for your attitude to change because it never will. You've got to DO SOMETHING!! It's vitally important that you make real changes and make them now! It's the only way you'll get past this rough spot.
You are NOT stuck unless you let yourself be stuck. You are NOT useless and powerless unless you allow it to happen. That is completely in your control. So get unstuck! Get the power back!
