S23 returned from Canada last night where was visiting his GF. We chatted on line and he's quite sad, and even tho I feel for him I was able to keep it in perspective-his feelings, not mine. I didn't obsess over the fact that he was sitting in his room at school being sad and lonely. He can handle it.
And I validated his feelings like crazy. I would never have gotten that as a teen or young adult. My mom would have said, "get over it, it's just a BF." my mother thought the only feelings we should have were those she told us to have, "be happy, you could have gotten nothing" "don't cry or I'll give you something to cry about" "stop frowning, what if your face would freeze that way"
By the end of the chat he was saying "I'll be OK, I'm just really sad right now."
Life is good and I'm happy that I can give my sons better.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
