I was turned around in therapy and got it early on. Once the MC's (tried 2 of them) turned the focus on her issues it freaked her out.

This is great for you! Sometimes it can be easy, or at least that's what I've heard.

For me it wasn't so easy. Took me time to be able to face what I had to face and I went through 3 ICs before finding the right one.

FM, I know this is hard but your best move is to step back completely and let her figure this out. It may mean you sell the house and you get a D. But staying with her won't fix her, fighting her decisions won't fix her.

The most loving thing you can do is detach.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss