This jumped out at me and until you see it, YOU won't be able to change.

I'm not interested in changing him at all
"You know, I'm a little concerned about your eating habits... that's not good for you."

He's not looking for a mother. You treat him like a 12 year old, he acts like a 12 year old.

What does being a ball buster mean to you? Do you see being a ball buster as conducive to good Rs?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss