When tapestries of life get tangled in the loom.

[Big Bruce]

Hello,
Very good points and food for the thought here. I'm glad I found this site.

So, to show detachment, I will keep sending few emails, always short, to the point and without "intro" and "good-byes".

To show her I am a "great guy" is all the difficulty.
I don't know how to do that . Any ideas?
All my previous attempts were considered as "pursuing". It included : write lengthy nice emails, showing interest in her life/activities, always show up smiley and act super gentle as if in passionate love, making eye contact, always compliment her about her looks/clothes/boots, invite her for coffee/dinner, encourage her before exams, invite them for tea at my place...

So how to detach now without coming across as cold or angry?.
I don't want to "retaliate" or be nasty, but show her that I respect her for giving her the space she wants and letting go. It's also a consequence of her decision.

I will also wait for the Court proceeding to happen without trying anything on her. Hopefully, there will be custody changes in my favour as well.
In it all, I won't pull dirty things :1. because it is legally irrelevant, and 2.it will give her the reason to keep resisting reconciliation.

To top it all, I am working on being the best dad as possible, even if for the moment my time with S is very limited.

--> For the moment, until you guys tell me, I won't mention making peace or leaving the door open. She knows anyway, but she has to start wondering.
Because we don't want my changes to look like only the mean to get her back, which they aren't. Because I am truly interested in my S <-- THIS IS MY PRIORITY NOW. And I have already lost anyway. Not interested in "winning" and show that "I was right".

Hug for you all, you're really the best help I found so far.
B.