Hi eyesopen!
Just stopping by to say hello! I totally agree. In order to have a new R, both of you need to change those old bad R habits.

However, I would like to believe that when W sees your changes, it will motivate change in her and/or it will allow you to express your wants/needs in a more receptive manner. kwim

M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017