My H still hangs onto how I allowed the UPS guy damage the garage 15 yrs ago. It's not about you, he is trying hard to justify his bad behavior. One event, 12 yrs ago, didn't compel him to do all this. Stuffing his true feelings for years and years, now there's a compelling reason! Ultimately, the affair is his bag, not yours--don't let him pass it to you.

I have two daughters too (10 and 18). :-)

Heather

"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man

“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson