I don't know what state you're in, but it seems like a court date that you are a party to is, if not public record, certainly something you are entitled to call up the court and find out.
I'm not sure why you are sounding so hyperventilated about this. Pick up the phone during office hours tomorrow and find out your court date and show up, with your lawyer ideally. I don't know what she's being so secretive about but the date of your court case is not a secret.
If she is or isn't pregnant with your or someone else's baby, you are going to have a devil of a time trying to make her keep it. Even if you were still happily married you would need to negotiate this together and agree on it together. If anyone has unilateral control over anything in a marriage, the mother and a pregnancy are about the ultimate. Not that it's fair, but it's reality.
I'm not sure either the court date issue or the possible pregnancy issue should have any effect on your DBing. But you should be at court, for sure, it's your right.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
