I was wondering about that too, backing off making my W feel more distant. I just don't know. I mean, I KNOW how she liked being treated during our M. But, I can't treat her like that now. Unfortunately, I didn't treat her like that enough before. It is so frusturating. I guess I just keep up the "wow you're looking nice", Have a great day, Good for you" sort of thing? Cheerleading, basically????