Hey CV, I was just thinking about you and your resentment issues towards your H.

I then happened to come across this post you made to ScaredSilly in the Piecing forum:

Originally Posted By: Crazyville
SS, have you read the book, "After the Affair?" I haven't but thought I'd pick up a copy. I don't remember if your H did anything in line with an actual affair, but I'm thinking it might still be appropriate because it all boils down to betrayal of the R, right? In your case, you probably feel like his kids were "the other woman." I know I do. At minimum, it figure it has to have something in it about healing the R and rebuilding intimacy in the worst-case scenario, so even a few nuggets in it might be helpful.


First, that was good advice. I know that I felt my W spent more time and attention towards her friends and family, than she did with me. We would be in the middle of a conversation that was important to me, the phone would ring (a friend calling to chat) and she would take that call and leave me hanging. This being one of my LL (Quality Time), it was very defeating for me.

That said, your post earlier on your thread regarding your H and his kids from his previous M, really changes context when the above is added. I'm not sure if you intentionally withheld from us here how you felt about the step kids.

I'm guessing that isn't even just the step kids and I'm also guessing that this might also have to do with something you may feel but are not mentioning here, that perhaps you feel your H spends too much attention on the step kids, than he does with S12.

And I wonder if that really is some of the things you do not want to get into.