If things are not alright then it's not the end genius KD, genius
Me-31 H-24 D3,D2 M 4 yrs WAW(me) 12/2011 role reversal 03/2012 (H)PA 3-6/2012 (H)D filed 6/2012 D deemed "inactive", closed 8/2012 I've moved on 9/2012
"Love and compassion are unconditional, but trust, once it is betrayed by abuse, has to be earned, gradually and slowly."
The tight integration of many emotions and the fact that emotions are not privy to brain logic, makes it difficult to separate them all.
The sentence I quoted brings to bear that trust... is a choice...
When we talk about love being a choice, it is not. Love is love. We all know that, from the WAS / MLCer and the classic ILYBINILWY. I would submit that the WAS / MLCer would STOP loving you, if it was a choice. In the same way that the LBS anger levels up during frustration. If there was no love, if it was a choice, there would be no anger, or at least it would be more manageable, like frustration.
For an LBS, there is a sense of betrayal and trust has been shattered. Trust, BTW, is often based on expectations. Trust, like all other emotions, is actually internal. Its root is fear.
So, in all fairness, it is really TRUST that is a choice.
