X demands full custody because I'm engaged, Part 2

[sleeper]

The "fear then" was an ugly custody battle.

There was much predisposition for things to be ugly...

During X's parents split up, X's mom's family kinnapped her and her brother from school in St Thomas, flew them to the states and hid them in an FBI safe house (X's maternal grandfather was a former FBI agent and the chief of police of a city) so her US Customs agent father and his buddies couldn't kidnap them back.

X's mom remarried and while she was dying of brain cancer, X's stepfather got her to sign a new will excluding X and sibling from estate (I think they were legally disowned also) so he could get everything for himself. After her moms death he wouldn't even allow kids in the house to get personal items.

X walked away from assets when she left first husband (her choice) and regretted it.

X believed herself to be cheated by uncle (executor) when her grandfather died in 2006. Uncle actually opined, "we're not going to do everything exactly as father wanted." The family owned a bank a few generations back and an heirloom coin collection (old gold, silver) heavy enough to make the rear shocks of a car hit bottom when transported in the trunk mysteriously disappeared. I urged X to hire a lawyer but she refused saying her uncle and his adult children were the only family she had left (even though they have nothing to do with her and her and our kids see them once a year at Christmas). That uncle allowed X's grandfather (his father) to lie in an unmarked grave for years and it may still be.

Her grandmother died in 2005, her grandfather in 2006. We separated Jan, 2007. She threatened fight for full custody if I disagreed with property split she wanted (believed some things intrinsically hers). We had been through criminal trial (the pedophile) from 2002-2004, two years almost to the day. Bookkeeper at our business had robbed us blind in the middle of trial while we were distracted (another financial ripoff she had endured).

Food for thought (I think too much)....X screamed at me during separation, "You're not getting a dime of my inheritance!" (wtf? Was she confusing me with her uncle?) In my opinion X kidnapped our children from me when she took them during my custody time without my permission and against my direct instruction. (a learned behavior?) X says she was sexually abused in blended family after her mother remarried. (She says she will never allow DD to live under the same roof as fiance's son.

Doing the right thing at the time doesn't mean you won't pay for it (or regret it) later. What makes me sick is now facing the fight (custody) I thought I had avoided years ago, although I believe my position now is much stronger (But I'm not a lawyer). Maybe I was willing to pay that price to avoid a custody fight, not to just postpone it.

It is what it is.

Ain't it grand?