I have a similar experience with being a "giver". I don't do b!tchy well at all. As I understand 180's they should be things that NEED improving and becoming a b!tch may not be an improvement. Look for other directions to "give". Perhaps charity or other functions that remove you from him. I follow a principle that "If its convenient for me to do, I do. Otherwise, I do not."
If you try to do something too far from who you are, at least all at once, it may be too hard to maintain. Look for baby steps that you CAN achieve and maintain and go from there.
God bless and good luck!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
