House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[FloydMan]

Thanks labug, 7720 and RLA.
Yes, she definitely has childhood issues and teenage issues. A lot came out in therapy. Some I knew, some was new to me and some I got more of an understanding. Her parents were controlling old school European/Portuguese. They were critical of her and her 2 sisters. They have both had marriage issues and resolved. One sister had an affair too and it took them 2 years. My W used them as an example when she was begging to save our M to work on it for 2 years. The other sister has been married for 30 years but they have certainly had their turmoil. 10 years ago my W made me cry when she told me she never even had a bike growing up. I got her in the car immediately and took her to get one and taught her to ride. She did miss a lot of simple things. There is resentment with her parents. The 3 of them have it and I have been there when they have gone on their rants about them. Especially the younger sister about her mother. But they never confront them and are all still at their beck and call and pretend they love them so much. They do but there is resentment there. I have seen it and heard it. She definitely is using survival techniques learned from way back. Bury the problem. Don't face the problem and fix it. Run. Turn away. Cold shoulder. Ignore. Distance. Shut down. These are all learned behaviours. The in-laws have been so good to me though. They are very simple folk.