Thank you for stopping by again Ruby. I always appreciate your comments.
In regards to the first part of delaying a D, I'm halfway detached if not more, b/c I'm not even really worried / focused / hoping for a reconciliation. Part of me wonders though if I could have done this earlier where I may be. Oh well cent undo the past right? Also, someobe earlier used the word numb, I'm not. I still feel. I'm just trying to get by.

Drinking, yes not my friend. Got it. smile. All the friends I saw this evening were surprised that I didn't join them, but very easily welcomed / respected my choice.

About the last part, we are not currently juggling days at the house aside from one of us leaving for the w/e. Early on the sich, I "had" to leave the home and stayed at my parents off and on for a couple weeks. It wasn't until I told her that didn't work for me and if she was so miserable in the M she could leave. She didn't. She slept ob a couch for a few weeks, then bought a bed and shared a room with S2. So this new proposed idea is for me to leave Sunday night thru Wednesday night. W leaves Thursday thru Saturday. Something like that. It would be the first time she had to be somewhere else during the work week.
I have to add this part, during the convo yesterday, she made the comment that she couldn't go without seeing the kids for an extended period of time consistently (eg a week). What does she think a D is? Really?

So to end the update for this night.
I was able to enjoy myself with friends without thinking too much about W. The sich in regards to kids is something else. smile. I am at home now. W, SILs, and some random girl are drinking. Oh MIL is here too (doesnt drink). Anyway, W still cold, non interactive, and what not. Grumbles about the dishwasher being full, but not ran. Geez. Quit trying to either pick a fight or realize that you have to it yourself. She's used to me being Mr. Clean. Oh, and the garbage can is overflowing. Not gonna touch it. Just going to stay in my bedroom, listen to my ipod to drown out their noise in the other room and read a little.

I may say this often, but I really do appreciate everyone's support here.