When tapestries of life get tangled in the loom.

[Big Bruce]

Hello,
I'm just posting to let you know what I'm doing. I'm back from France now.
I asked in a one line email if I could have my S for two hours tomorrow.
Answer : no, Monday would work better, what will you do and what will you feed him ? (I won't expand here on my unbelief of why she can't give me S on a Sunday, like he was busy...)

So, again, in a one line email (No 'Hi W, how are you, hope you're doing good" type of thing, no good bye or signature either), I said : play with him and cook mashed potatoes, tomato, carrots, chicken and fruit yoghurt for dessert.

- It is a 180 for me to not write as often. There was already little or no phone calls.
- It's only about S. To agree on visit times she allows.
- It's obviously very concise, and almost too much to the point. Another 180.
- No hello, no good-bye, no name at the end. Only one line emails. Kinda rough really.

I read on this forum about the need of the WAS to have the loss feeling, and feeling she missing out on a great guy that has changed.
After her declaration, I got wounded and I have emotionnaly detached big time. And I let her know that I let her go if that was what she decided. So maybe it is time for me to stop being so nice, agree-able and smiley and available, and writing nice emails and stuff. Am I swinging the the swing too far in ther opposite direction now?
Is it the right way to go ?

Also, to finish the topic about my feelings after her declaration, we say in France that an exageration is a half lie. Now, I know that the lawyer must have swollen the whole thing, but still, she agreed and signed it at the end.
It doesn't matter, I am not like this, and I won't lower myself in recalling all the petty things she did and tell on her.
For one thing, I don't want her to feel the way I felt when I read hers. And second, it won't matter to the judge if she was mean or not anyway, I'll stick to my coming all the way, yes to reconcile and yes to have my son. No more no less.

Comments? Insights? Advice?
Merci beaucoup.
Bruce.