House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[FloydMan]

Sometimes I feel the 180/LRT is but I know in the end it is for me. I am just more of a person to deal with things openly and it just feels like it sometimes. Otherwise I don't believe I play any...and least not consciously or intentionally. W thinks there is a MO behind everything I do or say. She is full of head games...to many to list. Definitely through emotional and financial. The whole cold shoulder and shut down thing that she has done over the years in emotionally abusive. Not sure she really grasps that concept but I have heard twoMC's try to explain that to her. It is controlling behaviour. Walking away, tardiness are part of passive-aggressive behaviour whether conscious or not. She will start a convo/argument and then walk away once she gets her shots in. The is no middle ground or reason especially once contradictions are pointed out. For example she was furious I sent her parents a 50th anniversary card and said to leave her family alone. However, days earlier she sent my nieces and nephews birthday and Christmas presents and a few months ago took my SIL out for dinner. My SIL and her were best friends but now SIL does not think much of her and her behaviour. W sets family boundaries then hypocritically contradicts herself. I pointed out that and she lost it even more. Her parents send me hugs and "hello's" through the kids and I was very close to them. I suspect they are disappointed in her and what is happening. perhaps they pressure her. they are very old school. There are a ton of examples but that is one recent.