I want to tell him that her continueing to contact him is her way of reigniting what they had, and I have already told him his accepting her texts/calls is killing me inside. I have already told him that she is succeeding in what it is she wants...to destroy his marriage and family. He doesn't seem to believe me when I say her feelings will never stop, that she will say or do anything to keep him in his life..including lie ( saying she would be good with being friends)..no matter the cost to me our our marriage/family. He thinks they can remain friends and not risk it going further. Said to him for someone who is as intelligent as he is, he sure is freaking dumb if he believed that. So what do I do? I want to go see him, but do not want to cave either or give in. I am also afraid that if I do not talk to him it will push him closer to her. Please advise.
