I guess I'm going to the crazy land...Oh wait then I can meet my W there!!
Yesterday I decided to meet with a L to discuss the separation documents prepared by the mediator. The mediator I might add that my Ws IC had given her as a really good guy who knows a lot. Well the L said that the separation document was so vague that neither of us would be covered enough by the document. The L gave me several suggestions about what needed to be incorporated into the document that made a lot of sense. My W had already been complaining that she felt the separation document was not very good and did not cover her enough. During the entire time she was there it was like she hyperactive and would not really look me in the eye.
Last night my W came by to pick up a few things that she needed. She swooped into the house (like she still lived here) and would not really look me in the eye, but kept moving around looking for the things she needed. We really didn’t talk a lot, but as she was gathering her stuff, I said that I would like to have the dog (the one she is keeping) a couple nights a week since I miss him and so do the other dogs. This was not a lie; I do miss him and want to keep spending time with him. She was not excited when I suggested I take him Thursday and Friday nights. She could pick him up on Saturday or I could drop him at her place. She was acting a bit weird and then tossed out something about her keeping one of the other dogs a few nights. I explained that we’d already agreed to that proposal and that we should work on the days for her to take the dogs too. She threw her hands in the air and said fine and we’ll see how it works out. Not sure what that meant I asked her to explain. She said we’ll have to see what happens and wouldn’t comment further. She then said, well do you want the dog tonight or start this next week. I said I would be flexible with that, since I had just requested this change. She said okay and that she’ leave him last night since she didn’t know what her plans for Saturday included. So I kept the dog. He’s a great little guy.
On her way to leaving she said that she wants to get together to discuss the separation document. I did not say I had seen a L, but as the document stands now that I would not sign it. It was too vague and that I felt that the one we wrote without the mediator felt like it covered us better than the one written. She kind of agreed, but wants to discuss more. She left with maybe we can discuss tomorrow when she picks up the dog.
Fast forward…This morning (Saturday)…Text that W is on her way to pick up the dog. Okay not a problem. She comes in and I try to be sociable. Offer her a drink, etc. I try and make small talk and so does she. She asks me about my dad, which is the first time in over a month. I said he’s doing fine. Leave it at that. I do look down and she has one of her rings on her wedding finger. Surprised, why yes. I have not expectation of what that meant also. I do not say anything. We talked a little more and then talk about Christmas Eve when she had to take the dogs to emergency room. I said we should talk about never having the woman who was watching them ever watch them again. This was from a text from her on Christmas Eve. She then steps back and says, she is a bit uncomfortable with that since she is now not sure if it really the woman’s fault??? What?? I said that I thought this was your idea and she again steps back saying she doesn’t feel comfortable with saying anything to the woman. I again decide to leave it alone. I’m not sure where this is going and it’s not sounding good.
We talk about her traveling overseas and the dates for watching all of the dogs during the time she’s gone. She seemed very uncomfortable with telling me the dates. I then notice that she’s moved her ring from her wedding finger to her other hand and was playing with it. She is acting very weird and uncomfortable. She did not bring up the separation document and neither did I.
Oh and from the looks of things she’s out spending quite a bit of money on new clothes, trips, etc.
