Don't ask, don't tell policy, does it work?

[Ready2Quit]

Wow what a night at my house last night. I snooped again looked at his phone. Not good. Seems he meet up with the OW (while he was at work I am guessing) and she gave him a BJ (in the parking lot???) I totally lost it, I mean really. Thank God my Sons where not home. I just cannot believe that he can have sex with me one night then turn around and do that with her. He has been so nice and acting like everything was normal. I told him that he is a piece of Sh*( and that he does not care for anyone but himself. He got mad because he said he cares for his kids, blah, blah and I said he didn't because if he did he would not be treating me like this and I hope that they never do this to their wives, because then I have trully failed as a mother. He said oh we going to start that, then rolled over! I lost it, I started hitting him, I mean just fist going, kicking him, screaming I wished he was dead, I hated him! He grabbed me and told me to stop or he was going to make me stop, I just kept screaming to go ahead and hit me, he had his hand in a fist and was pulled back. He stopped and said I was not worth going to jail for and went into bathroom and slammed door, I beat on the door and was screaming (told you I lost it) I don't know what came over me I was so angry and everything just came out. Hurt my hand beating the door so hard! He opened the door was dressed told me he was leaving because I had finally gone nuts, (I think I have). Told me to move away from the door, went into the other room got his gun, came back and got the gun he keeps next to the nightstand, unloaded it and putit back.

I just laughed, said if I was going to shoot him I would have done it a long time ago and he was not worth going to jail for either. Then my son pulled into driveway. He went downstairs and I stayed in the bedroom. I have never been so full of anger in my life. He was here in the morning and is ignoring me, but my boys are home and I am about to go crazy, I don't know what to do. I want to call the OW and tell her to get a room ready and pack all his clothes and throw them in her driveway. WOuld love to see her H reaction to that. H and sons left went to store and I am here alone and not knowing what to do...