What I'm learning from H stages, disappointment.

[albamarie]

Your H is so classic - totally opposite of the man you married.

Remember it's his journey and while he's 'away' you get to take your own, except you get to take yours with a clear head and conscience and do not have to fight the demons in the fog...

Hi Seeking- I know this now! I had to go through my own stages just to get past my fog of hurt and pain. But, after months of my own absence from life I am out and ready to make changes.

This man is not the man I married, nothing in his voice, face, eyes, or expression resemble my H as I know him. So sad when I say it out loud, and for the kids.

GatorGirl - '' He may not be oblivious to your detaching...he may just not be reacting to it. He's so into himself, his anger, his issues...him even acknowledging anything to do with you would draw the attention away from himself. Get what I mean?''

This makes lots of sense! He really is soo into himself...I called it narcissistic in my angry stage, but I think it's more self soothing and self exploration on his part.

He takes 6 to 8 hrs to allow himself to read his maps or study his science books. Without eating, he has sits searching for that fix that makes him feel momentarily ok, and calm.

Your right, I don't factor in his thoughts! He is on his journey right here at home in front of us, like watching him in a bubble, he is protecting himself, even from the family.