I agree with floydman (looks like I am following you around the board tonight FM!)
No normal parent feeds their kids dinner at 4pm - a snack OK but not dinner. But as you know you are not dealing with your "normal" W anymore and it makes life very unpredictable.
there is an awkward line I think between setting boundaries and going with the flow. Only you can decide what you find unacceptable.
I do like the suggestion you make a few posts back - of involving your daughter in setting up some routines. At 14 I would think she could be involved in working out which days of the week she would like to be where and approx pickup times obviously with some flexibility built in because life itself is not toally controllable. You are letting her decide now so this just creates a routine. Kids pretend they don't like routine but really they do and it would make life much more settled round.
Also did you D know you were planning to make dinner that night? In future maybe make sure she knows and even knows what you were planning to make...the best outcome would be if she said something like "no I don't want to have McDonalds for dinner now coz dad said he is making (insert fave meal) for dinner later"
Me46, H49, D17, D11 M22, T25 BD Dec26 2011 he moved out Feb29 2012
