finding my way

[bustorama]

Both initiating emails to him and, especially, telling him that you are thinking of him are pursuit behavior. And neither are accepting his view that he wants to run away and pursue this EA.

Have you ever had someone you weren't "feeling it" for pursue you or hint that they were into you? Probably didn't end well for them. Pretty much never works. Often drives you away more or leaves you feeling sorry for them, icky, or, perhaps at best, guilty.

Turn the tables. Stop all emails. (Try not to) think about him. Think about your next GAL or adventure with your kids. When your WAS is actively pulling away, showing pursuit of any kind will not work (even if it is a 180 from what was happening before). Pull away even more dramatically and get ahead of him on the detachment curve. At this point in time, it may be a 180 he will notice.