A newcomer's story

[justjudy]

Can anyone tell me if I am right thinking this is weird...

Firstly, that H doesn't contact D11 at all between her visits. Things means 10 days go by without him calling, texting or contacting at all. I couldn't go that long without hearing from her. I did raise this with him months ago and he said he didn't want to intrude on my family time, to which I replied that I appreciated his concern but thought that both girls would like to hear from him more regularly and that I didn't consider it intruding, he was welcome to ring any time, every night if he wanted to. So he phoned, D11 was delighted, I texted him the next day to tell him that and thank him for being willing to take this on board. He texted back "I enjoyed it too. Thanks for the hint" then hasn't rung since! I get her to ring him sometimes say if something cool happened that day at school so I am not expecting him to do all the work. Having said that, he is the parent here not D11. Is his "out of sight, out of mind" approach unusual?

Secondly, I just spent a week away over Christmas with the girls. It seems H came over at least three times while we were away. He's done that before if he knows I will be away, it makes me a little nervous coz he has in the past taken stuff. Some was his so that's ok although I'd still like to know so I don't think we have been burgled! But other times he has (accidentally?) taken stuff that was mine and I had to call him out on it. However this time he only took stuff that was his but also cleared out some junk I had sorted, as well as feeding the chickens, watering the garden, fixing the pool pump, filtering and topping up the pool - all the little household tasks he used to do. Is that weird?