Yes, I would rather work hard in a happy home than have it easy in a miserable one, any day.

I did not want him to move out, and I really thought we might make it work once he saw how hard I was trying, but his walls were up every moment he was living separated in our house. It was counterproductive. There's no shortcut to seeing that though, you just have to live it until you wonder why you're still doing it.

It's still a big shock and traumatic, and upsetting, that H doesn't live here anymore, and it's hard for the kids. But it was also shocking, traumatic, and hard for the kids to have him living here and us walking on eggshells. We're just able to talk about it now.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.