Hi Carole, nothing you say and nothing other people say will have the effect that your simple actions will have. Go dark, don't say you're going to, just do it.
Other people shaming him, such as his daughter, will most likely cause him to dig in more, and further justify his actions to himself.
Just give him lots and lots of space to stew in what he has created.
Agreed, that's why keeping others out of the sitch is best. H will blame any negativity he receives from others as all your fault.
Go dark and ask others who know about the sitch to button it. Stop telling them details.
Protect yourself and build a happy life without him.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
