Hi Carole, nothing you say and nothing other people say will have the effect that your simple actions will have. Go dark, don't say you're going to, just do it.

Other people shaming him, such as his daughter, will most likely cause him to dig in more, and further justify his actions to himself.

Just give him lots and lots of space to stew in what he has created.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.