Typical LBH, trying to DB

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Thanks everyone for your replies. I appreciate the dedication of time and brainpower it took because I haven't had much of that the last four days. I've been at work (I work at night) and the W and kids have been sick. I promise that I'll return soon to answer more questions and give more detail, but I wanted to share a major development: my W said she still loves me and wants to be married. That she wants to stay and work on our R. That she believes we can grow and fix our problems. This happened two days ago when I posted about having a rough time. Needless to say, a bit of an emotional rollercoaster.

Then today in MC, she said that she wanted me back in our bedroom, no intimacy yet, but sleeping in the same bed. She said that she was being unfair to herself by trying to cut off our R. That she's seen he changes I've been making and is feeling happy about that. I literally opened Divorce Remedy on 12/26 and started DBing the next day...maybe there was some ground work laid in the last six months and DR helped with more changes I needed to make. I'm happy that I'm feeling better about myself and I guess that makes a difference to her also.

So I've been feeling great about this and I can't wait to keep working, especially with her wanting to work as well. I'm also trying to keep some detachment around her because I don't want to look like I'm backsliding. I did not bring up OM because I want to move forward and if I dwell on him I will backslide. He's not important to what I want to do now, and I can be ok with not knowing the gory details of her EA. I can forgive her because it will allow me to accept with an open heart the time and effort she says she will put into our R.

I think that this weekend it will be important for me to review my goals and make new ones as needed. I'm excited and I'll keep reminding myself that small changes and improvements are the path to success.

Thanks!