trying to save my marriage Phase 2

[notsurewhat2do]

GREAT attitude!!!! H even told me that I was a catch and I'll be snatched up in a heartbeat (probably because all his friends told him how great I was ;-))

What do I know about OW? She is 41, like me. She has a son in college. We are all from the same town, I kinda knew her when we were younger (teenagers). Her dad is a big time deacon in his church. She worked at the bar where H went ALOT (obiviously to see her) and I was there one night and H pointed her out and her boyfriend out and said, he won't let her work without sitting her all night. I didn't realize who he was talking about at the time. Then one time I was up there with him and sitting at a table of older lady friends and she was our waitress, I remember her "looking" at me, but didn't think much about it. I never recognized her. Someone told me she is a recovering addict. She had mental issues when we were teenagers and I think her mom killed herself when she was much younger. Her ex-husband was controling and treated her badly. She been divorced 4 years. I have one friend who said she remembers some "scandal" about her at a local ballpark several years ago, maybe trying to snatch another husband, but that isn't confirmed. I do have her cell phone number, but I've never used it. Too childish. She moved in with him, she must know the situation. But for some reason, I think he might be lying to her also. She seems to let him come and go a lot (like Christmas) and I never hear anything if he happens to call me. Maybe he goes outside, I don't know. Do I see hope in them splitting? I pray they do. But, his dad did this exact same thing and is still married to the OW (30 something years later), but his dad also cheated on OW (wife at the time). So, I'm sure H thinks this will work. This is one of two reasons I'm not filing the divorce papers .... I want to try and wait him out to see if he gets tired of OW. AND, I'm not ready. I still have hope and still feel married. He says he had been thinking about this for a year, well to me, he owes me a year to think about it too!!!!

By the way, my H is leaving this coming Tuesday to go to a hunting show ... he actually told me this Tuesday (surprisingly!!!)

I doubt I'll be on over the weekend. I hope you have a good Saturday! Have fun and go shopping! Always makes me feel better!