House for sale. So Sad. Family Breaking Up (pt 2)

[FloydMan]

Thanks Tori.
Yes, I do. She knows this. I have not brought up R in months though. She out of the blue before Christmas said there was no hope. I was not talking about R. It is a complicated story, as obviously all are on this board. She is definitely full of anger and defensiveness. Anything I do or say W sees as a hidden agenda. Not sure if you saw my original posts and thread.
My family is now quite upset with her (they do not know of A even). Her family, parents are disappointed too. Months ago when she went on a tirade on me she slipped that her parents are unhappy and had pressured her. I get secret “hello’s” and hugs through the kids from them. I was very close to her family as she was to mine. My sister and W were very, very close and same with my brother’s wife. W is Godmother to a niece and nephew as well. My family loved her so much. She always claimed and even said in therapy she loved my family more than her own. Close friends are disappointed and know the man I am. Some coddle her and make her feel better though they cannot understand. They say what she talks about or complains about are very typical M things and they don’t get it. Some disagree with W so she avoids them and speaks ill of them now.
The house is up for sale since end of Nov… she forced it legally. We were both given the advice legally not to leave the marital home (abandonment) until sold. We have been in separate bedrooms since May 14. The kids are distraught and especially d10 lets her know of disapproval. I was pressuring for months and all the other no-no’s until I read DB and started this process and am doing 180 and LRT.