Your H is so classic - totally opposite of the man you married.
Keep working on detachment, it's hard when they don't live with you and I have heard it's so much harder when they do. Remember it's his journey and while he's 'away' you get to take your own, except you get to take yours with a clear head and conscience and do not have to fight the demons in the fog...
Stay on your course, you are doing well. You get the choice to stand or stand down. We'll support you with whatever you decide.
