Gosh, you sound so much like me and my situation, even the hunting!!! Thanks for the advice about Saturday. He is coming around 6 and staying til 8 or 9 so I will step out for a bit while he is there. In a way it [censored] because he's leaving to go away on sunday for 2 weeks and he's only seeing his child for 2 hours?? His priorities are so messed up but I'm sure OW wants his time before he goes. What do you know about OW? Have you ever contacted her? Do you see any hope in them splitting? I have been doing things on my own and not asking him to help. I also have been a pretty independant person but H always took care of the outside stuff like shovelling so I went and got a new one and did it myself. I'm sure its not up to his standards but I think its okay. I have an email set to go for the visitation agreement he has agreed to - one weeknight visit per week and one weekend night visit per month. I am dictating when they can be. I'm not going to be a doormat but I will be nice to him and happy when he is here. He looks so darn depressed it makes me sad. I think he feels trapped by OW and the situation as she is lonely and needy and has no one else but him now. So I'm going to be the opposite and not be needy. It was the one thing he said he loved about me, my independance.
I just want to work on myself, make sure D is safe and happy, and get back to being the person he loved for 15 years. If he doesn't come around, then someone else will be lucky to have me.
