Starsky, you are right about my actions, I always let him back. Yes it has been going on with OW off and on (mostly on) since 2007. I have spoken to a divorce attorney, twice. I would not get any child support, and no alimony and would have to file for Bankruptcy. I am not sure either one of us could afford a home for our Sons on our own. ($ part is my fault.) He can look me straight in the eye and tell me he loves me and the OW is gone and he does not want to be with her and everything I read was a lie and not even blink or flinch and I know that he just texted her telling her how much he wants to be with her. Plays with your mind.
When you want to believe sooo bad it's over and he can lie so easy. It is hard. I truly was trying to convince myself I could live in a marriage like this and just pretend everything was ok. He thinks it is. My only way out would be to leave myself I think, have everything set up (new apartment, new cell phone, divorce agreement left on counter) to be able to break free. I used to be a strong person, but now, I feel weak, sad isn't it!
I would suggest you speak with a second attorney. You have to leave a toxic marriage and he doesnt' have to pay you a dime?
That's hard to believe.
Anyhow. Talk to friends, family, find someone who is willing to put you guys up temporarilly until you get back on your feet.
There are advantages to having you in their home, sell that. It's not like you would be freeloading.
Friends of mine put up another friend who had to get away from her husband too. She still lives with them now. She cleans their home, baby sits their kids. Live in housekeeper basically. But she DID get away from the toxic relationship.
