I'm just horrified. I just spent about an hour reading back through past emails that my wife and I have exchanged. She is absolutely right. Literally for 5 years we have been unhappy (at times) and been expressing our desire to make things better. I had no idea that it had actually been this bad between us, for so long. No wonder she left. I am just at a loss.....
I did the same, read through conversations we've had. Many of the arguments or disagreements we've had seems so unimportant and idiotic now.
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
It makes me want go to my wife an apologize for being so ignorant.
Yes I wanted to do the same. But I decided it would be best to SHOW it rather than tell.
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
I want to show her how much I have improved and become a better man. I treat her better now than I have for years it seems,
Well that's a good step. And it weighs more than a (repeated?) apology. How is she reacting to your changes? I know you said you barely talk, but do you see any change in her attitude towards you?
My eX has, right now, a far better attitude towards me than just some weeks ago. I treat her (and me) with more respect and maybe that contributes. But still, there is not much change in our situation. And I know it can be a rollercoaster.
Originally Posted By: suckerpunch
Why didn't we make things better when we had the chance? Would we be able to make things better now, if she was even willing to consider it again?....so sad right now
Same thoughts go through my head. I guess we didn't see the consequenses. We were ignorant. BUT, we can learn from this. Grow from it. Hopefully we will come to a much better place, either with them or without.
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
