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What a joy to read! Keep on rockin', Bug. smile


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(((((LaBug)))))

(a hug of enthusiasm rather than support this time around)


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Putting finances in order for "D"
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Bug, that was/is a great story. thats why I'm gonna make my way out(someday) and see/hang with you for a few days.


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Labug, I'm proud of you! What an adventure, by the way. Very cool :-)

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Come out anytime, all of you! We can share stories.

This is a great story and living it is even better.

There is the Joseph Campbell quote about which I used to think, "Ya, that's cool."

But when you live it, it's so much more than cool.

We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.

And for the newcomers, I hated reading these posts when I first came here but it's true, you have to let go of them and find you.


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Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Amazing story labug.

Thank you for sharing.


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M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home
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Bugsy is on a roll. You go girl!!


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It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
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Oh Bug, I really like this you! I know plenty of people who are like the old you, but it must be soooo nice to enjoy yourself instead of spreading anxiety and negativism. You rock.

It would be an honor to sit up late around a campfire with you someday. smile


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6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
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I like this me, too.

Something else I've found helpful, discipline. It's been a challenge for me and I don't mean standing in the corner or wearing a dunce cap discipline.

I need to discipline myself to do the things that help me feel better. Today I'm a little down because I didn't sleep well last night, most likely due to too much caffeine yesterday. One of my intentions for this year is to cut down caffeine intake but yesterday I overindulged.

So I pay for it today.

Other things on my list that I need to be more disciplined about:
meditation
yoga
reading for fun
reading for information
bike!
mindful eating
getting outside everyday for at least 20 minutes (might sound crazy but my work days are often 12-13 hours and sometimes I don't even look outside. It's dark when i go to work and dark when I come home.
minimal wine

I just need to keep coming back to my intentions.


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labug, glad to have read your story. Very glad.

I think one thing else to take with this: it's a journey. It doesn't end, until it ends. Until then, we keep trying. We keep going. We keep improving. We keep discarding things that don't work for us and adding things to try that do.

We live regardless of the challenges. smile

Peace,
AJ


"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK
Put the glass down...
"Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."
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