Question about 180s. I know what I did wrong in our relationship. And that was not show H enough affection and attention.
Its been 4 months now and there's been no progress but I've also done a lot of what I'm not supposed to be doing I've been srnding emails writing letters and basically being needy and desperate. So I've began to really commit my self to the 180s/LRT - no contact, not initating conversations, being nice but uninterested. I've even told him he cannot come and go as he pleases in our family home whereas before I was letting him.
He's coming this saturday to spend time with D. My first instinct is to let him come when he wants, make him supper, ask him questions to show I'm interested, let him stay as long as wants and to stay home while he is here. This would be the 180 of how I was in our relationship for the latter part of it. But it also means I do all this for him and then he goes "home" to OW, basically leaving me feeling like a doormat.
But then that goes against the 180 list/LRT????
I'm confused, not sure what to do. Do I 180 on my behaviour over the past few months or on my mistakes in our relationship?
