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[mamabird]

I definitely get your frustration, and I have to say you're putting up with a lot for the sake of your son. I can't say I'm cut from the same cloth. I am probably much more selfish. I see myself more like SS - still wanting to have a go at a happy R, preferably with my H but if not, then fine.

Look - at the end of the day - you live your life how you want to live it. You don't seem like a depressed person. You do seem content in your situation, more like, you're resigned to it being what it is. I think this is a perfectly acceptable POV, and if we were back about 50 or 60 years, we'd know a lot more women like you. You are doing what you believe to be best, for the sake of your son.

I remember OM1 telling me a story about how he and his dad clashed like crazy. According to him, his dad didn't treat anyone well and when he asked his mother one day why she had stayed with him all those years, she told him it was for the sake of him and his brother. OM1 still came out completely damaged and might even have been better off without the negative influence of his father, but his mother thought she was doing the best thing by staying married.

These days, women take more liberties. The notion of "being happy" is something that we think we are entitled to. I am on that bandwagon myself. You do not seem to be motivated by that at all. Some would call that noble, others would say you're a martyr. What do you think, CV?

I think we are confused about why you're here... you don't want to leave your M... you are frustrated about working on it... you don't seem to be questioning any of it... so tell us CV, how can we help you?