help please

[littleGTO]

Hi, Carole,
Read your entire thread. I can relate on a lot of levels. My H also has OW in his life & won't give her up. They are JUST in an EA & he is totally cake-eating. My H did move out 2 months ago & that alone is a HUGE statement about where he is at. DIfference is my H says he is "in love" w OW and NOT w me.

We also have 3 children, although they are a bit younger than yours & know nothing about OW yet.

I agree your M cannot work if OW is in the picture in any way, shape or form. Your H needs to understand this. Is he willing to go to MC? If so, then this should come out fairly quickly by C. THEY CANNOT BE FRIENDS!!

I understand. She would constantly be in between the two of you. It is totally not fair. He is only thinking of himself--typical MLCer.

It sounds like you have made your boundaries clear. If he refuses to completely cut off communication w OW he will NEVER fully recommit to you. Just b/c he says he won't leave you doesn't mean he is committed to you.

I'm so sorry you are going through this, but I am too & can really relate.