I have been reading alot of forums about walk away wife syndrome and it seems a lot of people are trying to blame the LBS. Saying that the wife (or spouse) tried for years to work out the relationship and we the lbs never were willing to listen. I have a lot of issues with this concept of it being the lbs's fault. I told my wife several times a day I loved her, I gave her hugs and compliments, I helped around the house, I worked full time, I never hit or abused her, I showed love and attention: I did not listen as much as i should, I did not validate like I should, emotionally I was not there as much as she would have liked (however i did talk about feelings some). At times I did not pay attention to her when I should have, I did not tell her enough times thank you for the work she did. At times I did not show appreciation for her. I could list my grievances with my wife however this is about me being a better me, so I need to list things I think i did right as well as wrong.
What I'm getting at is it took two to get to the cliff, thats right I was running right beside her. It only took one to jump off the cliff. I resent the fact that some people want to lump all into the guilty side of the divorce. I have fault, I recognize my part and will try to continue to recognize my faults. I am however not the only reason for the divorce. I am the only one working on trying to be a better me. UUGGHH I need to stay on this site and stop going to the other sites.
I really like when people on this site point out the right/wrong line of thinking in bettering myself. My marriage may not survive but I will. I will become a better person. This situation will not define me, it will help to shape who I am. I need to print out my 180's so I can see them on a daily basis and remember who I am trying to become.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.