AM2012, sometimes a therapist just does not have the tools to help and sometimes what we hear a therapist say are different than intended.
That said, let go what has happened with your H moving back in.
Keep DBing.
It's really a positive thing that the both of you are still willing to try, more. If none of you are actually talking or pursuing D, there is certainly more hope than many here get.
And, having said that, from what I know about Retruovaille, it is a very, very positive experience. Don't expect it to change your H's mind or turn your M around. DO understand that it will affect the both of you in a positive way, even if that looks different than you hope.
No matter what your H does during the sessions, be sure that you fully engage in the session, for yourself. That is the best you can do that gives you the best chance in the future.
