Everyone in the family has been saying pretty much the same thing to her, slow down and make sure this is what you really want.
Well I'm sure their intentions are good, but you should really talk to them and tell them ALL to back off! They're unintentionally putting pressure on her and you will get the blame for it (it's easy for her to decide you put them up to it). EVERYONE needs to give her time and space, not just you.
[quote]It's nice to know they are not pressuring her either way.
Oh but they are!
From what they told me they only told her this when she approached them, otherwise they have not said anything.
We have been pretty much no contact with each other since just before Thanksgiving. She has not tried to contact me and i have not unless it's about Daughter. She has been allowing D to decide when she wants to be at her place or mine. I'm done with that, I never know when she is going to be here and that is not fair. I will talk with her again about working out the details if she does not participate, I will work it out with my daughter.
I'm starting to get tired of this and I'm not sure how much more I want to take. Going dark is more for me than my wife, I need the space to work out my emotions. I'm not sure how much I could ever trust her again with my heart. I keep leaning in this direction and I don't really want to be here.
P.S. AS how are you doing?? Have not seen you in a while, hope all is well for you.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
