Well it's done. I'm still in the house and I'm not going anywhere. Judge said I can stay put and that it would do the kids more harm than good. And that it would cost more money to live apart than to live together. So nothing has changed except now Mondays and Tuesdays are my days and Wednesdays and Thursdays are his days and we alternate weekends. That being said I don't interfere with his time and he doesn't interfere with mine. That also being said on my weekends he cannot keep me from traveling to see my family. I asked the judge and he said if it my weekend H cannot prevent me from traveling out of state. Now we have that settled, I am taking the kids to see my mom this weekend. H is ticked off. Majorly ticked off. He didn't get anything he requested. Not one thing.
In fact once we got home he wanted to have a "discussion" with me. He continued to berate me about how much money I am spending and How I am putting us into bankruptcy. Also how he is not working overtime anymore not because he can't, but because he won't. His exact words "our budget cannot support us working overtime." So that's his choice, right? That's his decision right?
Then H's attorney cross-examined me and asked me couldn't I move in with a friend who lives 45 minutes from here? Really? They expect me to impose on my friend who only has 2 bedrooms? Where are my kids supposed to stay? How am I supposed to get them to school? Then H has the nerve to tell me that it was not his idea to have me move out. That was all the attorney's idea. Bull!!
Of course nothing is his fault, this was not his idea, he never wanted any of this etc., etc.
H is now boiling angry. I also refused to sign the mediation papers so we are letting the court do a study and decide. It felt good to make that decision. I went with my gut and I feel relief.
It's gonna be a long haul. The fun is just beginning.
AT BD: WH 41, J 43; Bomb 2/5/2012 Two kids, one dog D Final 6/18/14 J marries OW 1/24/15 "No matter where you go, there you are"
